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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Don't Stress About The Mess

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog.  Today we are going to "not stress about the mess."  Really funny huh considering that most of us probably do not like messes...I mean who likes to live in a dirty place anyway?  Not me lol...but sometimes it's ok to just leave it alone for lets say a couple of hours. I'm not saying never clean your home because that would just be unsanitary and things can happen from a home that is never ever cleaned.  Right now as I'm writing this blog post, I'm surrounded by some toys and things that my toddler got out to play with and to tell you the truth...I'm ok.  I'm still alive and breathing and listening to my 18 month old who is supposed to be taking a nap but I hear him in there playing lol.  I have to tell you that it's ok to not clean up right away when your child or husband or whoever has made a mess.  My mother always said that "a house that is not always spotless is a house that is lived in."  And it's true..when you go online or watch these shows where the family's house is always clean like to make you think that no children live there, even though they said they have like wow.  So...don't stress about the will get cleaned up don't worry...go do what you were going to do...whether that was write a blog post, go to your child's sports event, or whatever you were about to do, go do that, and when you return you can get your house cleaned up.  You are not going to die if it's not clean this very are not going to have a bad fortune or whatever if it is not cleaned up this very second...and to be honest...if you have a husband or a boyfriend they would probably not want to help you clean anyways so what's the rush, I mean for real, what guy likes to clean...not many that I know.  Just remember that your cleaning will get done because we all need to have a semi clean home especially if you have children, but that if you don't get up right this very second and will be ok...I promise.

Have a lovely day :)


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Monday, April 27, 2015

Homemade Jello Fruit Snacks

Hi everyone... so today's blog post is going to be a food blog post...I mean who doesn't love food... and who doesn't love trying out new recipes LOL?  I found this recipe on Pinterest and thought I would give it a try...and my results were positive.  Hope you try and enjoy.
Homemade Jello Fruit Snacks: 
1 (3 oz.) package Jello (pick any flavor)
2 (1/4 oz.) packages of unflavored gelatin
1/3 cup of water
1.) Dump your water into a small saucepan.
2.) Sprinkle the gelatin (unflavored and Jello) over the water.
3.) Heat over medium heat and stir until dissolved.
4.) Pour mixture into ice cube trays.
5.) Wait 20 minutes for the fruit snacks to form.
6.) Enjoy!
My Impressions
I made these on the 25th to try the recipe I found on Pinterest and they are really good. I made peach flavored...Ben didn't like them...but I gave one to Liam and he loves them...he keeps wanting more. They are a more healthier version of regular gummies and now we don't have to buy gummies from the store. Try them and let me know what you think. I think I will be making more of these. I made them and they filled up half a snack bag..depending on how big the molds that you use are. I did circles but you can do gummy bear molds or one person did lego molds. They turn out really good.

Question or suggestion
Let me know what you think and if you try these out...comment with a picture and tell me how yours turned out.


Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Pain-your deepest, darkest, Soul Finder, Truth Seeker, Soul Seeker, Truth Finder, Soul Destroyer, Soul Releaser.

Pain- your deepest, darkest, soul finder, soul seeker, truth finder, soul destroyer, soul releaser.

I often wonder what it would be like to never be sick.  I often wonder what it would be like to never feel pain.  Pain is something that I can deal with up to a point.  I think life without pain would be ok for some things and not ok for other things.  Pain  can sometimes not be understood or even explained.  It can not be in a box with pretty flowers and beautiful bright colors because it's not really that great of a thing to go through.  There are so many different types of pain, that in a sense I feel it's like a human race.  Humans are all sorts of beautiful shapes and colors.  Humans are all sorts of wonderful emotions...some good, some bad, some hard, and some indifferent and unexplainable.  I am right now in pain, but not emotional pain even though there are times when I feel like I should be in emotional pain.  I am in physical pain, and it is not something that I can hide and run from; even though I wish I could because that would be the greatest escape of all.  Right now I'm listening to music and being in pain is just calming to a sense, where I can put my focus on something other than why I'm in pain.  How can pain or the feeling of hurt make you feel calm and at peace?  I ask myself now as I'm listening to very calming music. However I think that distractions are another way of escaping what we are really feeling.  Don't you wish that there could be a way to disappear and make our pain just fade away; I mean not disappear forever or even all the time, just those times when we feel like the pain will never go away?  As I'm sitting here writing this blog post, I'm wondering to myself, can pain change people?  Can  pain make people think about the unexplainable?  Can pain make people feel uncertain about who they are?  Coming from the most over thinkable person that there is in life, I can't even answer these could be because I'm over-thinking this "pain" word or it could be because I'm really focused on this blog post, or it could be because I'm just rambleing on about something that is such a strong and meaningful word.  You know feeling lightheaded and uneasy about sharing my thoughts is the weirdest feeling ever.   I think it's pain that demands to be felt, dealt with, thought about, and then...



Questions to answer and think about:

Have any of you ever felt uneasy about something that you have shared to someone?  Have any of you ever felt weird about really taking a relationship to the next level and talking about your deepest darkest secrets, including all the pain that you have had or already have deep down inside your soul?  Please share, I would love to hear how you guys interpret this thing we call "pain."

Thanks for reading

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

A road with no end...


 Picture taken by me


Question to answer:

 how do you interpret this picture?

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Bullying...Fight it! Beat it! Believe you are BEAUTIFUL!!

Fight it! Beat it! Believe you are BEAUTIFUL!!

Have you ever been bullied?  How did it make you feel?  Have you ever bullied someone else?  These are valid questions and sometimes it can be hard to admit that we did something wrong.  I'm not really sure of the exact statistics for bullying however I do know that it's not right.  No one has the right to be bullied.  Cyber bullying has become a thing these days with the social medias like youtube, facebook, twitter and more.  And you wouldn't think that bullying over the internet would hurt people's feelings but it really does.  So how do you overcome it?  In my opinion it's basically 3 things.  One:  taking those negative comments that people have said about you, and making them positive.  If someone called you ugly...look yourself in the mirror and say "no I'm not ugly, I'm beautiful."  Say that every day of every minute if you have you to, but believe it because you are beautiful.  So if someone called you "stupid," say "No I'm smart." Turn that negative into a positive because positives outweigh the negatives.  Two...Be confident in who you are...if you are confident with who you are and know that it's ok to be you, then eventually people will see that, and if they don't then that is their loss.  And last but not least, be who you are and want to be.  If you be who you are and who you want to be, then no one can take that away from you.  No one can take something that they have no control over.  If you let them have control, they will run all over you, but if you take control and don't give them that upper hand, then you will be the person you want to be. And last tell an adult so they can help before it gets more serious than it is. Bullying is wrong and it can be harmful if gone too far, not just to the bully but also to you.

Any topic you would like me to discuss leave a comment or email me at 
1)Turn that negative into a positive
2)Be confident in who you are 
3)Be who you are and want to be
4) Tell an adult that you trust

Questions to answer:
Have you ever been bullied?  How did it make you feel?  Have you ever bullied someone else?  Share your story in the comments :)

Don't Judge yourself through someone else's eyes


  So today we are going to be talking about confidence, self esteem and not judging yourself. Now having confidence, self esteem and judging yourself has to do with Psychology because it has to do with who you are and where you came from that defines you. This blog post will talk to  young girls of all ages and young women for the most part.  I have younger sisters, and I don't want them going through middle school, high school, college, life, thinking that they are ugly or thinking that they will never get a guy to like them, or thinking that the only way to get a guy to like them is by dressing inappropriately and just lowering their standards to meet the needs of others. I want them to have confidence in who they are inside and out, and to have good self esteem  and to understand that who they are is unique. Now I know we all have judged someone and I'm sure we have all been judged sometime in our lives, but that shouldn't affect how we live our lives.  Now a personal story, awhile back, I was going through something and I was really down, and I cried all the time, and I was just in a bad place; and when I would ask my husband why he was so upset with me, he said it was because he couldn't understand why I let things get to me.  He wanted to know where the confident woman was that he married.  The woman that didn't care what other's thought about how she dressed, or who she married and more.  And he was right, where had that woman gone? The answer to that question was, I didn't go anywhere, I just lost who I was because I let what other people said about me, get to me and make me sad.
  Having confidence in yourself will go a long way in your life. Now some people may disagree with me but a lot of times, the one thing a man looks for in a woman is if she is confident in who she is. Men have this thing of being confident and not caring what others think, but for some reason women just don't have that.  We seem to care more about what others think about how we dress and how we look than anything else and what's the point of caring about those things?  If a guy really loves you, he will love you for you, not for what you are wearing or how your hair looks or your body image. Don't judge yourself through someone else's  eyes. Embrace your real beauty, have confidence in yourself and carry yourself with good self esteem, because the person you are is unique and no one looks like you.  If you have a scar or a birth mark, be proud of it, don't hide belongs to you, it uniquely defines you. God made us different for a reason.  If he wanted us all to look the same, then he would have created us to look the same. Embrace your ethnicity, the color of your skin, the way you were raised, etc.  Don't change yourself just to make others happy because you will never be happy that way.  If you do that, then every time someone says something, you will want to change yourself because you think they are right, and they are not right. Some good ways to improve your confidence.
   A good way to improve your confidence, self esteem, and help you with just dismissing what others say to you is to look in the mirror and say I am beautiful inside and out.  If you say that to yourself every day and believe every word that you are saying, that will help you so much.  Another way is to go natural.  I'm African American and I have very knotty hair and it can be really hard to do, but I love it anyway.  I've been going natural because I personally don't like wearing fake hair. I know I am beautiful the way I am, and my hair is only a tiny part of who I am. So go natural; don't wear make up everyday.  Most days I don't wear make up, and my husband seems to like it when I don't because he says that I am beautiful without it. I love my natural beauty and you should too.  Now that doesn't mean you can't ever wear make up, just try to take one day out of a week and don't wear any.  Get used to liking who you are on the outside, because it's who you are. If you like yourself on the outside, then it will show on the inside by your confidence and your inner beauty and personality. Some other ways are writing little notes to yourself to help you build up your self esteem and your confidence like I have a beautiful body, and maybe wear a dress that day that makes you feel good about your body type.  What ever you do, don't lower yourself down to what other's think of you because you are you, you are unique and beautiful and no one can be like you. Remember:  Don't judge yourself through someone else's  eyes, and Embrace your real beauty, have confidence in yourself and carry yourself with good self esteem, because the person you are is unique and no one looks like you. 

Question to Answer:

What are things you can do to not judge yourself or others?  Tell me in the comments below.

Forgiving Yourself is Learning to Move On

Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.

Forgiveness is another one of those hard lessons that we have to learn from an early age.  It's not something that comes naturally to people even though it should.  It's not something that we can easily do either even though we should.  When we forgive, we are taking the power back from whoever did us wrong, and we are controlling the situation and admitting what we did was wrong, but also that we want to move on from the situation.  This quote up top basically makes a good point.  A lot of the time it's more painful to forgive someone and move on, then the actual wound that we suffered from.  Forgiveness is putting your pride aside and saying.."I am going to forgive you because I want to move on."  It's easier said than done obviously, but practicing it makes perfect.  And one of the ways to make this easier... is to forgive yourself first.  Forgive yourself from whatever you did and say "I'm done letting this control my life and bring me down...I'm letting go, forgiving myself and moving on." Even if they do not forgive you, you can still be free from the guilt and shame because you took the first step and forgave yourself.  So learn from your mistakes and learn to forgive yourself no matter if that person will not or doesn't want to forgive you...why hold on to the guilt, if you know you can be free inside and be happy?

Question to answer:
What is one thing today that you can forgive yourself on and move on?  Comment below.



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Being a Mom is my true Passion

  So i'm 25, married with a child...and here is my story about my passion. This might be a little un organized, but right now my 18 month old is sitting with me so I'm multitasking.  I grew up not knowing who my biological parents were.  I knew their names, but that was pretty much all I knew.  My name is Marvina and my biological dad's name is Marvin (hence where I got my name).  My dad died when I was really young, before I knew he was my dad, and I was in a foster home until I turned about 3 and a 1/2-4 years old.  At about 4 and a 1/2 years old, I got adopted by this wonderful family, who are still my family as of today.  I was not the favorite, however I was not the least favorite, my mom tried her best to treat us all equally, since she had 12 of us kids to try and make happy each and every day which is a hard job.  My childhood was pretty good and just like any family we had our disagreements, but we also had our joyous moments. At around 17 or a little earlier not sure, I had something happen...the pass away of my grandmother.  My grandmother was's where we spent a lot of our childhood growing up.  She was like my mom in a way that she loved kids and wanted to do what she could for any child that crossed her path.  Whenever we would go over there, we would bake cookies or cook dinner or was awesome...but she passed away suddenly, and there it all started.  Now through school years I also struggled with ear infections that would last about a week at a time, I got into an accident that almost left me dead...and I also have this weird health problem with my stomach. I get really bad stomach these are not just normal stomach aches, they can often get so bad, that I can't even sit up in my bed to even get out and do normal things like go to the bathroom.  I would cry because I was in so much pain that I would often ask my mom if she could cut my stomach out.  I never thought that there could be any other pain close to it.  It never stopped me from going to school, but it did stop me from going to events, and hanging out with my friends, because it would come at unexpected was even worse than period cramps, and I get those pretty bad.  I just didn't know how to deal with it.  I would go to the hospital and they didn't know what to do, they would say go on a fiber diet or try this or that, and it would never work...I just finally realized that this was something that I would have to live with the rest of my life and I have.
     Well fast forwarding to about age 19, I fell into depression and anxiety. So many things happened since I was in college, and a sorority and I had a boyfriend who at the time was just too controlling and clingy and I ended up doing so not some nice things.  When I got stressed, I would have these like anxiety/panic attacks and they would be really bad.  I would hyperventilate and cry because I was so unhappy, then I would fall into depression and stay there for weeks sometimes months.  It was awful..and so bad that I was told I had to see a therapist.  She really helped me deal with my issues that I was having, since at that age period I also lost my cousin to suicide.  a year or so after that, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me, or actually I broke up with him and then he told my friend that he tried to commit suicide himself, and if it wasn't for his mom, he would have succeeded.  I was so mad because that is one thing that I feel is one of the worse things you can do; no matter how sad or upset you are.  I got into youth group with my friends and that was amazing, but because I was so unhappy with school...I again got into some really bad things.  I even went to a city with  a guy I didn't know, and he did not treat me so well.  It was learning experiences like that, that have made me a better person and a better mom.  My own parents don't even know any of this, because I didn't let them in...I didn't think they would understand.  Fast forwarding to now...I am a mother of a toddler and there is nothing better than that.  That is my passion right now...Being a mother is the most rewarding thing anyone could do, and I can't imagine being anything else.  I always told myself that since I never knew who my biological parents were and I never had a connection with them, I would make sure that my child did.  I think divorce happens and I know there are reasons for it, but I have a belief in me that if by anything I had to go through that, my child would still know who is biological parents were because I fee that is one of the most important things in a child's life.  Being a mom is something that I was always scared of.  Going back to my stomach issue, I was always afraid of having a child...but  I ended up having one and he's the most precious and amazing child in the world, and being a mom is the most amazing feelings ever...My passion is being a mom and I can truly say that if I didn't go through the experiences that I  went through, I wouldn't be as great of a mom as I am today.  My child has gone through therapists, to having tortocollis which is where there is a flat spot in the back of the head, and he had to have a helmet for almost a year, to just being a very active little boy.  I will always cherish him and I will do what I can to be the best mother I can possibly be because my child needs me.  Being a mom is not a chore, but a reward because you get to see a child grow up and you can teach them everything you know, but above all else, you have someone who will always need you and love you no matter what you do, and that is just an amazing feeling.  I always admired my mom for adopting all of us, and I'm so glad that she raised me to so well where I can learn to put the past behind me and teach my own child what I have learned.  So hope you enjoyed this and here are some pics: My child's name is case you didn't know.

Question to answer:
What is your passion? Share in the comments today.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Introduction about me

Who Am I?
Hi my name is Marvina.  I'm from the United States. I'm in my mid 20's, I have one toddler and I'm married.  My favorite color of all time is blue, but I have loved to like the colors:  black, red, pink, orange and green.  When I was in 11th grade I went to the United Kingdom with a group called People to People Student Ambassadors and it was amazing.  Out of the countries I visited, my favorite country was Ireland.  There I learned how to milk a cow for the first time, which is ironic considering I live in the country because there are cows and pigs where I live.  I love how that country just seems so simple and people just always get along.  Nothing much to worry about and there's such awesome music.  I come from a large family...12 children, 10 of us are adopted and 2 out of the 12 are my parent's biological children.  I love my family, and I feel that family is the one and most important thing in your life that will mostly likely always be there.
Why did I start blogging?
I wanted to start this blog because I love to write.  I love going on pinterest and finding inspiration from that, but above all else, I love to be positive.  I wanted this blog to be a blog that just showed who I was as a person, a mom, wife and more.  I didn't want just a specific theme, but just a blog about my life.  This may not always be good things, but life is not always filled with good things, it's also filled with bad things, and that is how my life is...never the same or a dull moment.
Who is my blog for?
My blog is for anyone who just really wants a real time woman to talk to.  On my blog you will find things from how to deal with stress,  finding out what happiness means to you,  how to find a light in your darkest times and more.  These are just a few things, and I love helping people with dealing with things; however most of what I write about is from my own experience.  Since I still am very young, and I'm a young mother and wife, I still have things to learn, and I want people to feel comfortable just talking to me or leaving a comment or find something in my blog that helped them.  A lot of my friends come to me for advice, and I got my bachelors in Psychology, so anyway if I can help someone, I'm going to try.
Something I've been working on that I'm proud of:
Something that I've been working on that I am proud of is how I deal with getting back to who I was before I got married and had a child.  What I loved to do, who I used to see, who I used to be and more.  I'm getting back into blogging which is something I love to do, I'm getting back into journaling which is what I loved to do.  I also loved to read and take walks.  I think that when you lose yourself, sometimes it can be hard to find yourself again, so you sort of have to back track to how you were before you lost yourself.  It has been a challenge for me especially now since I have an 18 month old little boy who needs attention, but I'm making it a goal in my every day life to do something I loved to do before everything happened.
One message I want people to take away from my blog
One thing I want people to take away from my blog is just to LIVE LIFE.  It's so short, and yes things can get in the way of your plans, but that's no excuse why you still can't enjoy your life.  Life is full of surprises and things that you never quite understand, but if you take life as a way of learning or enjoying then there's no reason why your life has to be miserable.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Mom Cave:/Quiet Area: Why we (moms) need a mom cave/ quiet area and how you can create one of your own

Today I wanted to do an inspired blog post.  I've been wanting to have a place to myself where I could do my bible studies, read, watch Liam and just have an area that was only for me...but I didn't really have a really good room to do that where I could still watch my son.  So I went on my favorite site "pinterest," and found this article about a mother who has three kids, and how she was able to make what she called a "mom cave."  Now for guys, its usually easy, take an area and put a tv, game systems, and guy stuff and that is a "guy man cave," but what about for us women or  moms? We should be able to have a place like that too, not just a kitchen or whatever. Now in this article, this lady said it was really easy to do, even if you don't have a lot of space. She talks about how she used a bean bag and a flashlight, one time, and an area in her garage another time, but this time, for the place she is in now, she used a part of her small closet.  She put a small desk in there, after she cleared and organized her and her husband's clothes and stuff, and she put a chair in there, decorated a small corner of it, put a lamp in there, and now she has a place where she can go and be alone for a few minutes.  So I got inspired and decided to see what I could come up with and here it is:

This is in the corner of my living room, right next to the door that leads directly into my living room.  I just quickly did this.  I used a lawn chair that we were not using, a stand that we had, which holds my bibles, a notebook binder, pens, pencils, some books that I want for references or just books I'm reading or for inspiration, and my journal...on top there's a white lamp, with a picture of my grandmother, a candle on one side, and lotion on the other.  I took the chair and covered it with a fuzzy blue blanket, and for the footstool, I just took a crate I had, put a red blanket over it to match some of the living room, and then for the side, I took 2 big boxes, covered them with a blanket and put a dry erase board on it to hold drinks or so I could use it if I wanted to.  This has worked so great for me, and it took like 5 minutes to do.  In another article, a women talked about how she did this in here apartment, and now her kids go in there to just calm down if they are upset, they write her notes to tell her what's wrong, and they just love to use the area as their quiet space, or to just be with their mom. So I hope that this inspires some of you to figure out how to come up with a quiet area for yourself.

Question(s) to think about and or answer:
Do you have a quiet area in your home?  If so where is it and do you have things on it like books, anything?  If not..where in your home could you create one?

Any topics you would like me to cover let me know,  comment, or email me at  I might do a bible series on this blog as well, because I am currently going through chapter by chapter the book of Proverbs.


Picture by me

Thursday, April 2, 2015

Ways to Stress Less and Live More

"We all have stressful times in our life( hence the picture LOL)  and sometimes we don't know how to deal with it, however I'm going to give you 10 ways to deal with your stress."  These are way; you don't have to try them, but if you do or have, comment and let me know if they have worked.  If you have other ways to deal with stress, comment and share. :)

10 ways to deal with stress
1) Dance it out
       -Put on some great danceable music and dance your heart out.  Don't worry about who is looking at you, just enjoy the music and forget about the stress in your life.
2) Sing it out
        -Again, put on some karaoke or your favorite songs and just sing sing sing it out. :)
3) Talk it out
        -Call up a friend, a family member, somebody and talk to them about what is stressing you out.  Maybe they can give you some ideas on how to go about dealing with it or atleast if nothing else a hug and understanding on what you are feeling. There's nothing more than just talking things out when you feel you need to talk to someone.
4) Focus on what you can control
       - If it is something you can't control, why would you stress about it?  If it's something that no matter what idea you have, it won't fix it, then focus on what you can control.  Maybe you can control how your family goes on living from that point...maybe you can control where your life is going next...whatever it is, Focus on what you can control, and leave the rest to God(Cliche, but it's true)
5) Focus on the positives
        -Is there something that you can be grateful for?  Are their people in your life who have been there all along that you can say "hey that is a positive thing, I'm grateful for them?"  If you answered yes, then you are on your way.  Focus on the positives and don't worry about the negatives.
6) Drink Tea
       -Tea is amazing for when you are stressed.  When I'm stressed, I drink green tea, actually I drink green tea in the morning and before I go to bed and when I'm stressed ok...lets face it and be real, I drink tea all the time Lol.  Green tea contains theanine, which is an amino acid that promotes relaxation.  It's a caffeine contains the stimulating effects of caffeine.
7)  Exercise it out
         -Exercise is one of the things that a lot of people choose to do when they are feeling overwhelmed. That is because exercise stimulates the brain by bumping up the neurotransmitters that are called endorphin's.   Endorphin's are feel good vibes, so to speak, that tell your mind that exercise is a good thing.  It's usually why runners love to run...the idea is that when you exercise no one can get near you to put bad news into your head...perfect right?...Therefore you can't think about the stress in your life, all can think about is what you are doing in that moment.  How
awesome is that?
8)  Breathe or Meditate
         -Ok so basically it's self explanatory, but just breathe.  Go into a room, or on a chair or something, and take a few minutes and breathe.  Breathing and meditating helps soothe your mind and make it easier for you to understand what is stressing you out.
9)  Get a good nights sleep 
         -Basically just sleep.  Sleep until your heart is content because sleeping at times can sooth the mind, but besides's just AMAZING :)  Tell your boyfriend, husband or whoever that you are going to just sleep.  Turn off your phone, your electronics and forget about the world, and sleep.
10) Write it out, then read it
       -Get a notebook, a journal and piece of paper and write out why you are stressed.  Reading or looking into the source of your stress can really help in knowing how to overcome it and deal with it.  Think about the way you are currently coping with stress, and if it is not working, try something different.  For me, journaling really helps, or reading a book really helps.  A lot of times if I write it out, I can go back and read it, and really figure out what is stressing me out, how I have dealt with stressers in the past, and if they have not worked, I can try something different.

 Stress Less and Live More

Question to answer:
What are ways that you deal with stress?  Comment below